Spending time in the Netherlands can feel like stepping into a parallel universe – one where people cycle through rainstorms without complaint, eat lunch like it’s a ritual of efficiency, and casually tell you exactly what they think. At first, some Dutch habits may strike you as odd, even confusing. But give them time, and many reveal a quiet logic that is hard not to admire… and maybe even adopt.
- Lunch: simple, quick, done
If you’re expecting a hot, elaborate lunch, you might be in for a surprise. A typical Dutch lunch is just bread, cheese, maybe some cold cuts. No warm meals, no long breaks.
It feels a bit underwhelming, until you understand the logic. Lunch isn’t meant to be an event; it’s just a quick refuel. You eat, you move on. No food coma, no wasted time. And somehow, after a few days, that basic cheese sandwich starts to feel exactly right.
- Directness: no filter, no problem
The Dutch are known for being very direct, and they really mean what they say. If something isn’t right, they’ll just tell you.
It might feel a bit blunt at first, but the upside is simple: no guessing, no hidden meaning. What you hear is what they mean – and once you get used to it, it feels surprisingly easy and clear.
- Everyone gets congratulated
Dutch birthday parties come with a twist: you don’t just congratulate the birthday person; you congratulate everyone. Parents, siblings, sometimes even friends.
It feels a bit strange in the beginning. But it reflects something very Dutch: celebrations are shared. It’s not just about the individual; it’s about the people around them too. A little unusual, yes – but also quite warm.
- Cycling… everywhere
The Dutch don’t ‘go cycling’; they simply live on bikes. Business meetings, school runs, grocery trip, everything happens on two wheels. And they do it in all weather conditions, calmly and confidently.
For newcomers, cycling alongside hundreds of others – while holding an umbrella or chatting casually – can be intimidating. But this habit makes brilliant sense. It’s sustainable, efficient and often faster than driving in a compact country. Plus, it keeps people active without needing a gym membership.
- Bring something along
If you’re invited to a gathering, don’t be surprised if you’re expected to bring something: snacks, drinks, dessert.
Where some cultures expect hosts to handle everything, the Dutch prefer sharing the responsibility. It keeps things relaxed and pressure-free. Plus, everyone contributes, which somehow makes the gathering feel more equal and easy-going.
- Open curtains, open lives
One thing you’ll notice in Dutch neighbourhoods: curtains are often wide open, even at night. You can literally see into people’s living rooms.
It might feel like a lack of privacy, but it’s more about openness. There’s a cultural sense of having ‘nothing to hide’. It’s not about showing off – it’s just normal.
- Planning is serious business
Spontaneous plans? Not usually. Want to meet someone? You might need to ask them a week or two in advance.
It sounds a bit rigid, but it’s actually about respect. People value their time and commitments. Planning ahead means when they meet you, they’re fully present, not squeezing you in between ten things.
At first, these habits can feel a bit unusual. But once you understand the thinking behind them – practicality, clarity and balance – they start to feel… kind of brilliant. And don’t be surprised if, one day, you catch yourself cycling in the rain, eating a simple sandwich and saying exactly what you mean – without even thinking twice.
Written by Parul Sachdeva